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STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF

Ever found yourself in a loop of self-doubt and criticism? Perhaps, you've been giving yourself a hard time just for being, well, you. Or you're constantly dragging yourself down because you think you don't quite measure up when it comes to brains, wit, looks, or success. Ever look at others and convince yourself they're not fans of you? If this sounds familiar, don't sweat it—we've all been there! It's like having a little critic in your head that won't give you a break.

Imagine you're at a party, and you try to tell a joke, but you mess it up. No big deal, right? But instead of laughing it off, your mind starts racing with thoughts like, "I'm so dumb. Why did I even try? Everyone must think I'm ridiculous."

And before you know it, you've talked yourself into believing that you're the only one in the room who doesn't have it together. It's like your mind has gone from "Oops, I messed up a joke" to "I'm a total failure, and everyone knows it."

But here's the thing: those thoughts aren't facts. They're just stories you're telling yourself. And the more you listen to them, the more you start to believe them.

Think about it. If you had a friend who was always putting themselves down, you'd probably tell them to be kinder to themselves, right? You'd remind them that everyone makes mistakes and that it doesn't mean they're worthless or unlovable.

Well, the same goes for you. Those mean thoughts you have about yourself aren't the truth. They're like a bad habit, and with some practice, you can learn to change them.

It's about recognizing when you're being overly harsh on yourself and then taking a step back. Instead of getting sucked into those negative thoughts, you can start to challenge them. Ask yourself, "Is this really true? Would I talk to a friend like this? What's a kinder way to look at this situation?"

It might feel strange at first, but with time, you can learn to be your own cheerleader instead of your own critic.

Imagine how much lighter and happier you'd feel if you could let go of those negative stories and start treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you offer to others. It's like giving yourself permission to be human and make mistakes without beating yourself up about it.

Remember, those negative thoughts in your head are just that - thoughts. They're not facts, and you don't have to believe them. You have the power to change the way you talk to yourself, and in doing so, you can create a more positive and loving relationship with yourself. It's like learning to be your own best friend, and that's a friendship that will support you through thick and thin.

In the following pages, we'll explore ways to break free from this pattern. We'll start by looking at the stories we've created in our own minds about ourselves and how we talk to ourselves on a daily basis. We'll also delve into the thinking traps we fall into and look at strategies for nurturing a more positive and compassionate self-talk that will enhance our overall well-being. So, let's dive right in and get started, shall we?

CONQUER YOUR INNER CRITIC

Think of your mind like a never-ending conversation with yourself. These private talks, known as self-talk, really impact our lives. They help form what we think about ourselves and how we see the world. This self-talk can either help us grow and bounce back from difficulties, or it can make us doubt ourselves and hold us back.

'Quieting Your Worst Critic: Yourself' is like a guided tour of this inner conversation. Specifically, it focuses on the negative part of self-talk, the part that's often driven by a nagging inner critic. This book looks at where that inner critic comes from, what it says to make us doubt or blame ourselves, and how it can mess with our feelings, health, and relationships.

But don't worry, this isn't a downbeat book. It's all about finding strength, bouncing back, and changing for the better. We'll identify this inner critic and understand how it might be hurting us. Then, I'll show you tested ways to deal with this inner critic, learn to be kinder to yourself, and take charge of your inner conversation. We'll explore helpful tools and approaches like acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), cognitive restructuring, and cognitive defusion, which can help you handle your inner critic and be more in control of your thoughts.

At the heart of 'Quieting Your Worst Critic: Yourself' is a simple yet powerful truth: we become what we think about ourselves. How we view ourselves, what we believe, and the way we see the world plays a big role in who we are. This book dives into the way we talk to ourselves in our heads and shows how changing that conversation can truly change our lives.

As you read this book, know that you're not just along for the ride. 'Quieting Your Worst Critic: Yourself' is like a hands-on workshop for your thoughts. It's about rolling up your sleeves and getting into the nitty-gritty of how you see yourself. It's about breaking free from those thoughts that hold you back and building a stronger, more positive view of yourself.

This isn't about just thinking happy thoughts; it's about understanding how powerful your thoughts are. It's about shutting down that nagging voice that tells you you're not good enough and instead using your thoughts to create a life that shows you are worthy and full of potential.

It's a journey into understanding yourself better and taking control of your life. Together, we'll steer towards a place where you're who you want to be.

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If you're looking for calm composure no matter what life throws at you then Ian is your best bet! I've read a lot of books about improving my emotional intelligence and taking back control but none of them nailed it like this one! If you're looking for a self-improvement guide then this guy is your man. I've bought all his books now but this one was my first and it made a big impact on my life. It's such an easy read too. No jargon, just straight-to-the-point sound advice.

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Reading this could change your life!

A seriously comprehensive approach to overcoming obstacles in life and making the most of whatever comes your way. It's one of those books that, if you did everything it says, and didn't skip anything, then your life would change dramatically. It's changing mine. I've read a lot of self-help stuff over the years but this really opened my eyes. Lots of exercises and suggestions make this a very practical book. The title says it all "Life Mastery". Brilliant book! Highly recommended reading.

Luther James
THE LIFE MASTERY HANDBOOK (Paperback)
THE LIFE MASTERY HANDBOOK (Paperback)
Finally giving myself a break from myself

I'm my own worst enemy, never satisfied, could do better. My inner critic had a megaphone to make sure I never heard anything but the sound of myself beating myself up. Even when I did something well, I would find myself pulling every detail apart, convincing myself that it wasn't good enough, that I wasn't good enough. I was stuck in a cycle of self-criticism. This book is like a workbook in many ways but also gives an explanation about what's going on with you and a good, friendly, talking to about what you can do about it. It's written in an unusual style that's very conversational and helpful. Like sitting across from a councillor. I found it t be very helpful, informative and instructional. My inner critic doesn't have a megaphone anymore. She's still there but a bit quiter these days.

Rachel Adams
CONQUER YOUR INNER CRITIC
CONQUER YOUR INNER CRITIC
High IQ low EQ. Not a good look.

Always pleased with how smart I am but struggled to talk about my emotions. Mr Spock they used to call me! Makes you unhappy when you're all about the gray matter though. Using this book, I've been able to connect more and just loosen up around people. Long way to go yet but I'll get there.

Andrew Urmston
THE HEART OF INTELLIGENCE
THE HEART OF INTELLIGENCE
Very helpful

I'm always reacting. I struggle with my past and I didn't see how miserable it was making me. I worked through this book and it changed me. My wife even says I look years younger now I've stopped scowling all the time.

Andrew Urmston
HEALING HIDDEN WOUNDS
HEALING HIDDEN WOUNDS
Always struggled with boundaries

Always had a problem saying "no" and never been assertive but it's made me miserable. Sick of being taken for granted. Anyway, not doing that anymore. This book is a real help and I'm feeling more in control of my life now. Very caual tone in the book bit very encouraging as well. Been a godsend to be honest. I needed this book.

Andrew Urmston
BOUNDARIES
BOUNDARIES
Helps you figure yourself out

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RECLAIMING YOUR AUTHENTICITY
RECLAIMING YOUR AUTHENTICITY
Helps you get over your crappy past

Struggled for years with trying to move on from my past. This book was a big help. I don't blame myself anymore and I can be my own parent from now on. I'm a better man than I gave myself credit for and the past is not my fault. Great book. Author seems like a real nice guy.

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REPARENTING YOURSELF FOR A BRIGHTER TOMORROW
REPARENTING YOURSELF FOR A BRIGHTER TOMORROW
Great book for building confidence

Bought this book as part of a bundle and it's really good. Really helps you build up confidence in yourself. I've always struggled with feeling like I need to achieve more and do better. No matter what I do, it just never seems to be enough. With this book I've learnt that it's your mind trying to protect you from fear of failure. What I like about the book is all the practical advise and suggestions. I've gone through them all and it's made me feel a lot better about myself. No one is perfect and you know what? That's OK. I'm OK. Great book. Buy it and you'll stop beating yourself up all the time.

Sarah Downs
STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF
STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF
Helps tune out that nagging negative voice in your head

I really needed to cut myself some slack. Always negging myself out and cringing over every mistake I make. Doesn't matter what I do, I never feel like it's enough. I just wanted to be more supportive of myself. This book is great for that. I learned to tune out my inner critic, question if what it was saying was really true, then flip the script on it. The book explains what's going on in your head, how to see that it's not true and then gives tonnes of excercises to show you how to be your own best support system. Been a really useful book. Made me feel like I'm winning for a change.

Sarah Downs
CONQUER YOUR INNER CRITIC
CONQUER YOUR INNER CRITIC
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Really good books to help you through tough times. The Hard Battle book was really helpful and amazingly informative. The book about emotion regulation was a real eye opener. I hadn't heard of emotion regulation before. Really made sense to me. The Inner Calm book gave me plenty of ways to rebalance myself and be aware of triggers. All together, these books are powerful. They'll get you through anything. The author talks to you like a person too, not like a reader. I mean his style is very conversational, not formal. It's like having your own coach guiding you along. Very good. And great price too.

Rachel Adams
CALM AND IN CONTROL
CALM AND IN CONTROL
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TRANSFORMING RELATIONSHIPS AND SELF: A BUNDLE OF WISDOM
TRANSFORMING RELATIONSHIPS AND SELF: A BUNDLE OF WISDOM
Beat the past, figure yourself out and move on

Bargain price. Simply written but deep topics. Really helping me out going through the activities and suggestions. There's a couple of really good freebies too that are very useful. The guy's a working therapist, so he knows what he's talking about. Sick of reading books by people who've never actually practised what they preach.

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FINDING YOURSELF TRILOGY
FINDING YOURSELF TRILOGY
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CHALLENGE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
CHALLENGE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
Bought the lot

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TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE TREASURE TROVE

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